Over the past weekend, I had the pleasure of meeting a lovely middle aged woman named Jane*, while helping some friends of mine fix-up the steal of a deal fixer upper they just purchased. Over the 24 hours of moving things, sanding cabinets, and scrapping off 40-year old contact paper and various and a sundry shelves, Jane shared her a good portion of her life story with me. The story was both heart-breaking and infuriating.
In short, 14 months ago, Jane lost her job at 55 years old. As the job market has continued to unravel, she has given up or lost her home, her car, many of her prized possessions, and to some extent her pride. She has been diligently searching for a job with each interview ending the same way, they either thought she was too old or too qualified and would leave if something better came along (I wish as an interviewee, one could ask the interviewer “how do I know if I say I’ll be here for 2 years, you will keep me for at least 2 years?”, but I digress.). She is praying that what little she has left in a storage unit will not be auctioned off at the end of the month, and she has literally begged her cell phone company to give her one more month.
In the last few months, Jane has become almost entirely reliant on friends to keep a roof over her head. She is homeless–though not in the sense we almost always imagine in hearing the word. She is apart of the growing number of folk that have lost a job and a home. They are not sleeping on the street, or at a shelter or even in their car, but are shifting from couch to guest room as they try to stay economically afloat. No job. No home. She is dependent on the kindness (and/or tolerance) of friends and relatives.
Jane’s particular situation demonstrates the disconnect that exists between the haves and have nots as the economy continues to unravel around us. See Jane has some well-off friends, but none of them are willing to help her. One rich Beverly Hills friend who lives alone told her, that she is unemployed because of “bad choices”, and therefore she couldn’t let Jane stay with her. Another said she needed to be able to have “alone time” in her 4-floor house with a rarely used finished basement. (It is only because of a friend who is living much closer to paycheck to paycheck and is supporting someone else who also lost a job that Jane currently has a roof over head.)
Jane’s friends are just a localized version of the “disconnect” shown in all of its glory on the Hill and in the media as they gravitate between ‘let them eat cake’ in the form of tax cuts, and patting financial institutions with bailout funds on the back while they do nothing but hold on to the funds. I know at least 10 people who are currently out of work. They are trying to decide how much longer they can afford their rent, their mortgage, or their car. Folks need jobs. Not tax cuts. Nobody is going out to buy a big screen TV with it.
Some ideas that could help put people back to work, train the long-time unemployable, and increase the size of the middle class are largely absent from the stimulus. How about some RFP’s to address our crumbling infrastructure? That would connect private industry to job creation. How about some access to the training programs that are afforded to some TANF recipients in some states for those who have been unemployed for more than six months? How about encouraging cities to take back abandoned houses and create opportunities for entrepreneurial non-profit and for profit organizations with a way to reposition the properties like NYC has done with the Neighborhood Entrepreneur Program? How about supporting some funds for small business—the nation’s largest employer? All of these things are key to maintaining viable communities to live and work.
The same old tax cut, entitlement spending, and cuts to programs that encourage future growth (uh, education any one?) ain’t gonna do it. But as Kevin Costner once said, “In America, they’d rather give you a handout then give you a job.” I guess the latter is too much like right.
* Jane is not her real name, duh.
14 responses so far ↓
susan // February 18, 2009 at 3:42 pm |
is sad times for many of us, hanging on to our jobs if we have one, worry every day, i’m alone too, God Bess You
anony mous // February 18, 2009 at 4:14 pm |
I, too, lost my job after only 8 months. Due to the company’s poor investment strategy they suddenly were in a position to be bought out and 90% of my colleagues and I were laid off. Single and without kids, I even moved two states away to take this job as it seemed so promising. I have been looking for work, and though I consistently hear how impressive my resume is it has yet to translate into paid work. I am also staying with friends and wondering how long I can afford the ‘basics’. I can’t help but wonder if we had taken on mortgages if the government would buy our houses for us; instead we tried to be ‘responsible’- a word that garners too little respect today. What is the Stimulus Package doing for us who are trying so hard to help ourselves? It must get better- I hope it’s sooner rather than later.
Kenn // February 18, 2009 at 4:33 pm |
As it generally goes, if it isn’t happening to me, I don’t have to worry about it. Fact is, many of us who have had good jobs and have paid our dues, working weekends, late nights, leaving sick children in the care of others (you know, the general sacrafices of the employed), are but days away from our own unemployment. What we are not yet doing as a community is extending our love and care for our neighbors as we should. We let others shoulder the responsibilities, just as we did when our children were growing up (dropped them off at the school’s front door, or in front of the TV). My co-worker expressed shock that the government will be going so deep into debt at the cost of her having to pay more taxes in the future. Bottom line is, that we have become more selfish and closed off as a nation, maybe overwelmed by daily images of a world in pain and suffering, that we just naturally close ourselves off. “What can my small part do in solving these massive issues”. In the new Obama world, we are called to selflessness more than ever, and I hope that each and every one of us who hasn’t yet experienced the daily suffering of others, will step up and do at least one day of service to others. I am not a spiritual man, so I don’t end with “I pray”, but rather, please do what is right. You show Christ’s love to others by helping them. And as I told my mother, who spent her entire lifetime serving others, that now is her time to really become Christ by letting others imitate Him.
CD Rates Blog // February 18, 2009 at 4:47 pm |
As a “stranger”, I feel bad, but it is hard to make good decisions on who to help and not to help.
The sad thing is it seems like her “community” that knows her is not willing to step-up.
Our country would be so much better if we could rely on each other in our community instead of forcing people to go to the gov’t for aide.
For Jane, I hope and pray that an opportunity will open up. Blessings to your friend that has stepped-up.
Candace // February 18, 2009 at 5:40 pm |
Do you think that the tax cuts will give businesses a break and free up more of their funds so they can hire more people? (Just a naiive thought, I’m just being optimistic. It’s easier and doesn’t cause wrinkles).
Skip Mendler // February 19, 2009 at 1:31 am |
We’ve been isolated by our prosperity.
I lived in Columbia MD for a short while – I wonder to what extent Mr Rouse planned for the needs of the less fortunate, or those who get plunged into misfortune unexpectedly….
Skip Mendler // February 19, 2009 at 1:35 am |
And to Jane, let me suggest finding ways to supply value to the community thru, say, volunteering – it’s important to avoid feeling worthless, or like one is not contributing, which can happen when one is not traditionally employed.
Toan Vong // February 19, 2009 at 2:05 pm |
This blog does touch face with many situations and issues my company is currently dealing with. I’ve noticed that much of the older folks are getting laid off, only to be replaced by a machine or younger folks working for cheaper wage. It frustrates me even more when I see the people that are lucky enough to keep their jobs at my company to act and be comfortable (ex: showing up late for work, not keeping oneself busy, taking more initiative, etc.). My girlfriend’s boss told her, “during these tough times, you finally get to see who really shines and who is dead weight.”. Does that really matter in these tough times though? To my observation, I see too much of the dead weight scenario going on. Ignorance is bliss, I guess. As long as that empty shell of an employee gets paid peanuts for what they do, the powers that be don’t really care if things get done. All employers out there MUST see more quality rather than quantity as well! Not the amount of money the company is paying them. This is such a disgusting infrastructure!
Kamala Platt // February 19, 2009 at 2:29 pm |
I am just a little younger single prof currently not teaching but have heard the argument about leaving for better things for years. I have been job searching for 15 yrs plus with a decade of academic “temp” work (ie adjunct/ contingent faculty…) I own my house only because my parents who are not wealthy help me out (in essence they own my house). After much abuse in teaching, I have decided to focus on what I can do as opposed to how I can make money. (I originally went into teaching in order to support my art and writing–which never happened.) Although I don’t know how long I will be able to continue this way without a salary I have seldom been busier, more productive or happier. I’d counsel your friend to appreciate the connections that are supporting her, think of the ways she can make those relationships better through give and take, and forget the wealthy ones who don’t want to share. (Actually her friends that are helping may be receiving as much as she is.) One of the saddest things I’ve seen with this recession/depression is the way that rhetoric suggests erroneously that we are what we make moneywise… I have a better conscience as an unemployed person because I am not contributing as much for the wars etc. I do not believe in anymore…While there may be obstacles, if your acquaintance can think of what she can do well, or what she would like to learn to do/ has an interest, and go out and do those things–volunteering is great–she will likely meet people with whom she shares interests and values, and in this way may also find the means to get herself on her feet again…
Rob // February 19, 2009 at 7:17 pm |
I’m not usually a person that would take the time to reply on a blog but that post was very well done.
Bob Doyle
Shelf Companies Inc
Kit (Keep It Trill) // February 20, 2009 at 4:46 am |
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Wise // February 20, 2009 at 9:29 pm |
Excellent way of putting a face on the issue. What struck me most was the psychology you described of her friends who clearly have the space, but no desire to help out. I think it’s that same “Psychological Hierarchy” that makes people feel secure in thinking that they are better off than someone else.
blackgirlinmaine // February 25, 2009 at 11:01 pm |
Thank you for sharing Jane’s story…I think there are millions of Janes out there. People have all sorts of misconceptions about the homeless yet having worked with the homeless for years, I know that the number of Janes is sadly increasing.
Mike // March 1, 2009 at 12:06 pm |
Just passing by.Btw, your website have great content!
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